Two more books

I finished two more books tonight. I read most of Way of the Peaceful Warrior on the way up to pick up the kids, and finally polished it off while laying down tonight while Levi fell asleep. It's not my favorite approach to the ideas, but certainly worth recommending to someone who wants things in a narrative format. I intend to pick up the movie shortly.
I read all but the very end of Relationship Saboteurs in Chicago, but had to return it to the library when we left town. Today it finally came in through inter-library loan, and 20 minutes after I cracked it open I was done. My intent was to read it alongside That Bitch, the idea being that perhaps a lot of the same behaviors would be covered by both books, and the different perspectives on the causes and cures would be valuable.
Well, for one thing, That Bitch is damn hard to find. Neither Chicago nor St. Paul libraries have it, and unless I'm incompetent (obviously a possibility), not a single library in the MN Link system has it either. So, since I'm not really in a position to buy much right now, and That Bitch is not in the top 20 books I want to buy, it doesn't look like I'll be reading it any time soon...
Relationship Saboteurs, on the other hand, is one I'll surely be re-reading one day, and adding to my library when acquisitions pick up again. For as much as speculation about other possible realities is truly just speculation, I can't believe that I'd be going through a divorce if I would have had this book eight years (or even nine months) ago. Ten sabotaging behaviors (insecurity, needing to control, fear of intimacy, needing to win, pessimism, needing to be center stage, addictions, martyrdom, defensiveness, breaking trust) are detailed. I thought it was impressive that Tonia and I average at least five of ten, but the nine listed as at the end as "Other sabotaging behaviors to look out for" (passive-aggressiveness, undercutting, compulsive fighting, manipulating, blackmailing, procrastinating, withdrawing, complaining, exploding) are even more on point! Crazy that things didn't work out! Better luck next time (to both of us), right?