Wednesday, August 31, 2011

See you again tomorrow?


And with my 2nd wind: books talk!

I finished Going to Pieces without Falling Apart yesterday at a marathon "study" session at Spyhouse. Basically, this book is super awesome. The amazon reviews summarize it better than I could. I'm struck how just in the last two weeks I have loved two books weaving psychology and Buddhism together. Food for thought, (or not, I guess!) I also re-read most of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, which I don't know if I had finished before. It's got a lot of good advice but the format - lots of workbook-type activities, cartoons, bullet-point lists - isn't for me. After I got what there was to get out of that, I started my second time through Unconditional Parenting, my co-favorite book to recommend to new/expectant parents along with The Continuum Concept. I hope to finish that and my newly borrowed copy of Blink at the cabin this weekend. Then, I'll go back to reading what I'm told for the first time in years!

Wordplay, illogic and obfuscation on the way to proving that corporations are people

I have plenty of problems with Jay Ambrose's column in today's Star Tribune. To appease my weary bones, I will limit myself to a brief tirade against what I take to Abrose's thesis: Corporations are people because people own them, run them and work in them. If being owned, run and worked in by people is the test of personhood, I'm pretty sure that cars, factories and backhoes would all be people, too, right? The rest of the column is more of the same only not so nakedly nonsensical.

Monday, August 29, 2011

It sounds like a spoof, but nope...

Act of God interrupts pope's anti-gay speech

World guy, sorry we missed you!

As my dad and I drove the kids to meet Tonia in Grand Forks yesterday, we saw "the world guy" on highway 371. At 70 miles per hour, we were passed him before we could even discuss stopping. Within ten minutes of speculation of what that guy rolling a huge globe could be up to, Solana and Levi were begging to turn around so they could see and touch his giant earth. Another five minutes and I really wanted to stop and talk, too, but we had no extra time in the schedule. I proposed that Dad and I could take 371 back and hope to catch him then. By Grand Forks, my dad was on board. We took the long and scenic route home instead of the all-freeway route.
Of course, we didn't see the world guy on our return trip. At least we avoided the freeway until Clearwater, I still love the back roads.
World guy (AKA Erik Bendl), good luck on your mission to raise awareness of diabetes, if I pass you again I won't hesitate to stop! :)

Friday, August 26, 2011

Funny 'cause it's true

The onion at its finest

Dawkins bashes Perry, republicans, americans

In a column I first saw today, Richard Dawkins, in his usual arrogant manner, lays bare the republican's anti-intillectual litmus test, and the sad fact that a huge portion of americans are willing to go buy into it!

First person shooters

Even if rigorous scientific study has strongly suggested that violent video games don't cause kids to be more violent, shouldn't we be deeply concerned that we live in a culture where this marketing of destruction, craziness and violence is aimed, by companies that know their audience, at a broad swath of people we live with?


Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Google+

I've been pretty quiet about this blog, figuring that whoever takes enough initiative and shows enough interest to find it will win a little prize. Well, until now the only prize has been my random thoughts and a few pictures of the kids. Now you, dear reader, can have one of my 150 invitations to Google+, Google's social-networking tool that I just signed up for and can't comment on. Now that's a valuable prize!

White House cuts regulations, but the lowest hanging fruit still remains.

NPR story gives a good overview of the hot-button red herring that regulation is stifling business.

Monday, August 22, 2011

Class warfare

As always, Jon Stewart does an amazing job compiling and cutting through the bull crap. Thanks to the nation for pointing out a real gem!

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Bat nap moth nap

Not quite lion and lamb, but a treat to see!

Miasma at carver lake


Be safe!

Dana and I gave a friend a ride home from dinkytown yesterday. She was in no condition to ride her bike. People, don't drink and ride!

Morning stroll through carver.

I used to know my way around this place, not now, i'm lost!


Saturday, August 20, 2011

Please share, thank you.

Kind of amazing, isn't it, that most people in this supposedly "Christian Nation" can just drive right by this simple, humble, plea for help?



Friday, August 19, 2011

Helicopters and explosions!

Gas pump advertising, Freeport, MN


Grieving mindfully

I finished the book Grieving Mindfully this morning. I'm glad that this is the first grief book (for adults) that I chose. With all the other books piled up waiting to be read, On Death and Dying might just slip through the cracks for now.
Grieving mindfully is written by Sameet Kumar, a psychologist with a distinctively Buddhist perspective. The book is written to be accessible to people of any religious or spiritual background, however, and does not proselytize. I highly recommend it for anyone facing a death or other loss and hoping to come out of the experience stronger and more resilient.
There were two main things I will personally take away from this book. First, that all of the things I've lost this year - my marriage, living with my kids, my home (once and then again even more completely), my dog, and even my career with the USPS/NALC - can benefit from viewing the losses through the lens of grieving. I was  doing relatively well amidst all of the tumult, but this book will definitely move me along more mindfully. Second, reading through Kumar's explanation of closure was the first time I began to grasp the concept in a meaningful way, especially though his explanation of Ira Byock "Five things."

Great time for a rainbow


Hallelujah


Thursday, August 18, 2011

I feel, therefore I am

The sentence, "I feel, therefore I am," just popped into my head. I've been thinking again lately about what (if anything) can really be said to be "unique" to humans. In my mind, being the best at a lot of things (communication, tool use, problem solving, etc.) isn't nearly the same as being the only species to do something. Anyway, that's what got me headed down the path toward, "I feel, therefore I am." But, I wanted to see what the wider world thought of that phrase, so I googled it. That led me to a great article reviewing a book about the historic battle between Descartes and Spinoza, which Descartes won but looks like maybe shouldn't have... Hopefully I'll be able to check out the books Descartes' Error: Emotion, Reason, and the Human Brain, The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness, and Looking for Spinoza: Joy, Sorrow, and the Feeling Brain some time.

True stories from the Wild West town of Minot, ND

After picking up Solana's glasses, I followed the kids into the pharmacy across the hall while answering a phone call from citi mortgage. Every parent with a cell phone has been there: torn between the important call their kids. When "I'll buy you that candy as soon as I finish this phone call" didn't appease Levi, I gave the two of them three dollars (Solana says I gave it to Levi, I thought the both had a hand on it) and told them to get whatever that can get, I'll be on the phone. Rather than recognize that $1.50 each was a huge windfall of a candy budget, they proceeded to argue over whose $3 it was, soon taking $1 each and fighting over the remaining $1. When it became clear that they didn't have the skills to resolve this one on their own, I took all three dollars back, gave one to each of them and took one for myself. They were instantly content and went right to picking out their respective candy.

I went to pick up my car yesterday evening at the home of a man I have known well for several years. As I got close to his house, I called to tell him I was on my way and had forgotten my key to his place (which I've always had, but no longer regularly carry) and would need to be let in.  Several minutes later, after ringing the doorbell repeatedly with no answer, I thought of the spare key that was hidden outside the man's house. I let myself in and proceeded to the kitchen to grab my keys. The man yelled at me from downstairs that I was breaking and entering and he was calling the sheriff. I grabbed my goods and got the heck out of there!

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Glasses

Funny how they make you look 3 years older and 40% more like Hermione!
[Edit: when I told this to Solana, she reminded me that Hermione does not wear glasses. Although she is correct, I stand by my original statement.]


Crop dusting

I'm still opposed to it, but I just saw somebody dusting flying right beside us and it was AWESOME!

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Minot bound

After a second-half shift at Al's and an appointment with my adviser at the U, Mom and the kids and I will hit the road to North Dakota for Grandma Diane's funeral. Mom and I will be back by Friday, probably with the kids.

I haven't really started my newly topical books, but I was very happy with all three that I picked up for the kids.

Lifetimes is my top choice. This book isn't going to draw out a lot of feelings-talk automatically, but it does paint a beautiful picture of death as an integral part of life, at a level that even a pre-schooler can grasp. My suggestion would be to put this in your child's library well before they are actually facing a loss, to expose them to the idea before they face their own grief.

The Invisible String is another great book, though not specifically about death and grieving. This book would be helpful for kids facing any type of loss or difficulty (and who isn't?) The premise of the book is that an invisible string connects your heart to the hearts of everyone you love. The concept of death is only touched on when the mom character says (spoiler alert!) that the string even extends to the children's deceased uncle, Brian. I would have swapped something like, "People who have died, like Uncle Brian," in for, "Uncle Brian in Heaven." But, that's just me. Overall, a marvelous book, and a great toddler-level way of seeing our interconnectedness with all of humanity and all of life (at least down to house-cats!)

Everett Anderson's Goodbye was the distant third-best book, in my opinion. The review I read that ensured I would buy the book is by a pastor who uses the book extensively. He says that he uses it more with adults that kids, and I think it would be great especially for adults who aren't readers. For kids, however, the narrative was too subtle for them to pick up, I feel.

If one were to buy three children's books for kids experiencing a death of someone close to them, in its place I would recommend Water Bugs and Dragonflies instead. I realize now it was clearly a mistake to not buy it because I objected to one brief passage. The beautiful parable of a water bug becoming a dragon fly is limited, but not ruined by becoming a specifically Christian story in its final pages.

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Random thoughts from the debate (some of mine, mostly the candidates')


Here's a wild, stream of consciousness reaction to the GOP debate. Hopefully I'll find some time to organize things a bit some time tomorrow...

Giulianni should announce on 9/11/11. He should show up and save the day with a rocket backpack, Iron Man style.

I love the troops more than that guy; but not in a gay way.

I never change my mind. That's one thing I will never waiver on. No matter what the research says, what some university elite in their ivory tower says, what public opinion polls say, nothing. When my mind is made up, I don't even listen any more to new information. I take my orders from the generals, and the voters. That's it.

Go means go. No means no. Rethink everything in the region. Fear. Our troops are in danger. We need a serious debate.

Cyberintrusion is the new war grounds.

What would a “strategic dialog” look like when we're nakedly trying to divide up the world before everything completely falls apart?

Every plausable step? Sanctions, good work that you saw with scientists, computer virus, every plausible step.

Obama won't say he should go. He's a killer. This dude sticks his thumb in Israel's eye. They're our best friends in the world. There should be no space between us.

How do they put up Ron Paul's totally reasonable quotes as if they're evidence that he's off his rocker?

Sanctions is a precursor to war. Iran is rational to want nukes. Bring the troops home.

Talk about naïve. Ron, don't expect more than lip service on free trade. We don't decide whether to fight wars based on who is a bigger threat, it's who can we defeat relatively painlessly!

This isn't nam, Donnie!

I get all the energy for the ovens right from a tube in the wall. As much as I need. I turn the ovens up to 625 and leave it open at both ends! We just need to invent more oil!

It's proven that guantanamo info led to Osama bin Laden (M.Bachmann)

Bachmann, “I will do everything to keep Iran from becoming an nuclear power.”

Paul gets boos for going over time, cheers for a 30-second rant after the bell.

Iranian people were “free” pre-1979.

Santorum cites Iran's persecution of homosexuals as evidence of the urgent need to combat Iran.

(When I am president) The world as we know it will be no more! (Santorum)

Loyalty oath.

Verona papers?

What kind of “security provisions?” Should go to Ron Paul after that.

Ooooooh, the Morman question!

Who is Morman religion relate to the majority?

Godfather's?? Seriously, I would have sworn it was Pizza Hut. He's running on taking a pizza chain from 3rd to 4th or 5th?

As president, would you be submissive to your husband?

Submission means respect.

Beard services. In exchange for live-in psychologist to make sure you don't blow your cover as a complete mess. Seems like another argument for marriage as a contract.

Marriage as a man and a woman or marriage as a contract between just about any two people for whatever reason?

Huntsman is running on his record. Including 7 kids. Talk about potent! Supports civil unions? Sounds a little gay, right?

Ron Paul an marriage: polygamy is so past reality it's comparable to slavery. Marriage is between one man and one woman. States don't need to be involved!

Santorum: Ron Paul thinks polygamy could be OK! Ummmm, yeah?

No activist judges. I have an unblemished record when it comes to this man-woman marriage.

Based on results, I'm the most anti-choice, free-market, pro-life, pro-death-penalty, pro-military guy up here.

Would you extend unemployment benefits? Obama has no plan to get the economy going again. Of course, we'll take care of the people who can't take care of themselves any other way. By giving people personal accounts. What???

Unemployment idea: take Mitt's, add a periodic tax on high balances distributed to low balances (amongst workers)

EPA's reign of terror?? Really? Huntsman made some sense before that...

Voted against cut, cap, xxxxx AND the plan that passed. Do not raise the debt ceiling in any way. Markets would have fallen through the floor. S&P: we don't have ability to pay our debt. Taxes won't do it. So let the wealthy keep more money. Cutting spending won't do it. Nothing will. But I'd like to cut spending anyway. It just makes me feel good to take things away from the needy.

Income 25%, capital gains 0%, repatriated profits 0%

Pro-growth Godfather's CEO vs. spanish channel pro-growth advertisement.

Ron Paul vs. true-cost economics

Santorum on Ron Paul, Just because he's mostly wrong doesn't mean he's always wrong.

Santorum's thought bubble: “Getting my ass kicked in that senate race was the best thing that ever happened to me!”

Commercial for foreign cars during GOP debate focusing on jobs and the economy. You could have made a boat-load of money betting on that in 1972!

We just need to change the way we look at forests – they're sitting on top of tons of natural gas!

500 billion cut from medicare. IPAB? Medicare-IRS. protect patients?

I beat three incumbent democrats.

Liberty doesn't come from our government, it comes from our creator. - Ron Paul

Obama is, “A man out of his depth.” Next breath, “We need someone who loves America.”

Send a message to washington DC – I will end Obama's presidency at the IOWA STRAW POLL! Sounds like “Delusional disorder NOS” to me!

Post-op debriefing will have to wait until tomorrow morning, 5:45 a.m. at Al's Breakfast...


T-Minus 27 minutes until the GOP Iowa Fox News (Monsanto, Citibank, ChevronTexaco) debate

I'm going to try watching this thing live with the kids (and Dana and Mom). I don't think I can stay up to finish it if I start after the kids go to bed, and I know that once I get back from Al's tomorrow I won't want to watch anything, much less last night's debate...
Hopefully I'll have enough energy to jot down a couple thoughts later!

Beautiful august day



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Spent the morning at Eloise butler, picnic at Theo wirth, now swimming at harriet. What could be better?

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Two more books

I finished two more books tonight. I read most of Way of the Peaceful Warrior on the way up to pick up the kids, and finally polished it off while laying down tonight while Levi fell asleep. It's not my favorite approach to the ideas, but certainly worth recommending to someone who wants things in a narrative format. I intend to pick up the movie shortly.
I read all but the very end of Relationship Saboteurs in Chicago, but had to return it to the library when we left town. Today it finally came in through inter-library loan, and 20 minutes after I cracked it open I was done. My intent was to read it alongside That Bitch, the idea being that perhaps a lot of the same behaviors would be covered by both books, and the different perspectives on the causes and cures would be valuable.
Well, for one thing, That Bitch is damn hard to find. Neither Chicago nor St. Paul libraries have it, and unless I'm incompetent (obviously a possibility), not a single library in the MN Link system has it either. So, since I'm not really in a position to buy much right now, and That Bitch is not in the top 20 books I want to buy, it doesn't look like I'll be reading it any time soon...
Relationship Saboteurs, on the other hand, is one I'll surely be re-reading one day, and adding to my library when acquisitions pick up again. For as much as speculation about other possible realities is truly just speculation, I can't believe that I'd be going through a divorce if I would have had this book eight years (or even nine months) ago. Ten sabotaging behaviors (insecurity, needing to control, fear of intimacy, needing to win, pessimism, needing to be center stage, addictions, martyrdom, defensiveness, breaking trust) are detailed. I thought it was impressive that Tonia and I average at least five of ten, but the nine listed as at the end as "Other sabotaging behaviors to look out for" (passive-aggressiveness, undercutting, compulsive fighting, manipulating, blackmailing, procrastinating, withdrawing, complaining, exploding) are even more on point! Crazy that things didn't work out! Better luck next time (to both of us), right?

Paul Ryan (of Minneapolis, MN) for Governor (of Wisconsin)!

You heard it here first!

Also, today's Onion Radio News presents in a humorous 30-second radio piece (Boy Scout Won't Do Anything Unless There's a Merit Badge Involved) one of the main ideas that Alfie Kohn develops in his book Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes. I always love when the same meme is spread in such remarkably different ways...

Monday, August 8, 2011

Cousins weekend

I had an awesome time last weekend with four of the five cousins on my dad's side that I grew up with all in attendance at the family cabin. In between bonfires, boat rides and bar crawls, I managed to get a little reading done, finishing two books since my last post:
The Art of War which although I can see why it's an ageless classic, I personally get way to caught up in the translation and notes on the translation to appreciate it fully. I would have sworn that I had already read (at least in audiobook form) The World Without Us, but too much of it was unfamiliar for that to be true. I know I heard him give at least three long interviews on NPR and other public radio/podcasts. It's a fascinating book that's right up in my top-tier of books to include in my reeducation camp curriculum... My only real regret is that Weisman doesn't argue more strongly that we must reduce human population - dramatically if we intend to keep consuming at an ever-increasing rate. He seems to acknowledge that humans are past our carrying capacity, and several chapters show some of the many ways the planet would be better off if we disappeared sooner rather than later, but he doesn't point those two facts right directly at the conclusion, he just slips it in an afterthought. Hopefully, mentally planting that seed in the fertile mental ground plowed by his thought experiment will lead to the millions of his readers growing to see a reduced human population as an urgent need, rather than a scary, inhumane or sacrilegious idea!



Thursday, August 4, 2011

8 days?

Wow, so it's been a busy week since I last posted! Moved Dana back from Chicago, spent a long weekend at Lisa's cabin, and took in an enormous amount of media: Tuck Everlasting, The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian, The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace, The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference, When Harry Met Sally, Dazed and Confused, 54, Jack Goes Boating, and last night Horrible Bosses, as a gift from United Blood Services. Also listened to #267: Damaged Yet Dominant again, this time in the midst of a TED marathon with a temporarily hobbled Corey. Al's tomorrow 10-2 then up to the cabin for "Cousins' weekend." Should be a blast.